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Category Archives: death and dying
Black Friday
I am writing this blog on Thanksgiving Day. Tomorrow is Black Friday, a day when many Americans succumb to consumer frenzy and stampeding greed. I never think about shopping on Black Friday. I think about black ice and a semi-truck … Continue reading →
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Tagged community, deathanddying, healing, KirstenBergh, LindaBergh, Morning Star Singers, NinaDietzel, Thanksgiving, threshold choir
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Day of the Dead — in August
On August 8, 1991 my father, Willis Robert McAfee, Jr., died in my arms after a very short illness with pancreatic cancer. I’ve written a lot about that experience in the intervening years — in this blog, song and poetry. … Continue reading →
Posted in death and dying, Uncategorized
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Tagged father, gifts, grandfather, legacy, remembrance
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Death Songs
My friend Jeannie and I are at a Sweet Honey in the Rock concert in St. Paul, Minnesota. One of the group’s founding members, Ysaye Barnwell, steps to center stage and sings what she calls her “death song.” It expresses … Continue reading →
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Tagged conscious death, death song, Morning Star Singers, songwriting, Sweet Honey in the Rock, threshold choir, Ysaye Barnwell
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Oh For Goodness Sake – Stand At My Grave and Weep Already!
Death has been visiting my life a lot in this past year. During those times, I have frequently heard Mary Elizabeth Frye’s well-known poem, “Do No Stand At My Grave and Weep.” This morning as I was lolling abed, I … Continue reading →
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Tagged death and dying, funeral, grief, healing, maryelizabethfrye, poetry, tears
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A Blessing for Entering Hospice
My beloved friend Jim is nearly 92 years old. His mind is sharp and keen though his vision, hearing, and mobility are weaker every day. Jim doesn’t have a major illness. He’s just losing energy and appetite. A few weeks … Continue reading →
Posted in community, death and dying, Uncategorized
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Tagged anamcara, blessingway, conscious death, death and dying, hospice, johnodonohue, ritual
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A Death is Born Into Your Life
I sat next to R. at a community sing the other night. Her mother died several months ago and she is still in the raw grief of it all. Many of the songs called forth her tears and she looked … Continue reading →
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Tagged dad, death and dying, grief, hospice, pancreatic cancer
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Falling Silent
As a voice coach and singer, I pay unusual attention to voices. I cherish the cadences, rhythms, and sounds that I hear in the voices of my family members and friends. Each one is completely unique. Each one lingers in … Continue reading →
Posted in death and dying, voice
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Tagged CaringBridge, conversation, Jamie Showkeir, Maren Showkeir, memory, voice
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This Is When I Think of You – A Meditation for Fellow Caregivers
Yes, you. My fellow caregiver. I think of you most often as I walk out of Mom’s senior living place. Perhaps it is 9:45 p.m. on a frigid winter night. I worked all day and then drove the half-hour journey … Continue reading →
Posted in caregiving, death and dying, hospice
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Tagged aging parents, caregiving, hospice
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Conscious Dying: The Story of Jack
Jack and I were at the YMCA Christmas tree lot in the dark chill of a December night. His breath plumed among the pine branches as he laughed about his recent visit to the orthopedic surgeon. “During my pre-op visit … Continue reading →
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Tagged community, conscious death, death, dying, home death, home vigil, hospice, Linda Bergh, Nancy Jewel Poer, Theodore Jack Heckelman
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When I Die….
I recently wrote my “death song.” I’m in fine health, thank you. The opening lines are: “When I die, I know there’ll be singing By my friends all gathered around. As their sweet voices fade behind me, I will join … Continue reading →
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Tagged Bronnie Ware, death and dying, death song, hospice, transitioning.org
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